Tuesday, July 15, 2008

In Response :)

Stacey asked:
I always tend to overbuy and end up with things I needed for an earlier child but don't need for the new one. Do you think it's bad to wait on certain purchases until we need them? Like diapers or medicine? My first daughter used a pacifier. When preparing for a second I bought them to match all her outfits. However she would never use one. None of my kids since would take one. I am trying to convert into only buying what I need from buying everything. However I have this nagging urge to just have everything so I am ready for anything. How do you bypass this?



Hm. Well, for starters I'm super cheap. I have a hard time buying the big bag of rice, even though I *know* we'd use it. So far, for the baby, I've only bought things that experience tells me I *will* need again. But if the buying bug gets you, you can always just leave the tags on and return things you didn't need?



I actually struggle with this kind of thing all the time, from the opposite end, because I feel like I should be "stocked up" and I never am. I'd rather clean out our pantry/diaper basket/toothpaste tube entirely before spending money on more.



That wasn't a good answer, I'm afraid! :)



Jamie (who is giving away an awesome prize pack on her blog!) said:



I do want to know what kind of coupons you used and what store you did this at!!!! I sooooo want to learn the tricks of multiple coupon use...



I am so not the go-to person on coupons (go here for that). I never, never, never, never, never use them. But my good friend Amy sent me this link:


[Updated 7/30/08 - Coupons removed, since our local Target decided they were "fraudulent." What? Just because I found something on the Internets and then posted it on my blog it's not totally legit? Whatevs. Tell it to Al Gore, yo. ]

(Amy has printed off and used these coupons more than once!)

And then I looked through all those free baby magazines they always send me and found THREE more Target coupons for the Pamper diapers/wipes set.

This is a feat that will likely never be repeated in my life. :)


Sarah said:

I never realized that a baby is so expensive! Babies need a ton of stuff, don't they?!

I kind of feel bad about the baby-expenses tracking. My original intention was to show how cheap a baby is. You know, $10 added on to the grocery bill for diapers and you're done. I, too, am surprised by how expensive it has been for us.

I should point out a couple of mitigating factors, however:

  1. Babies of working moms cost more. You have to buy a pump and bottles and dressy maternity clothes and I have a theory that an at-home mom might go through fewer nursing pads, but... I don't really know. Additionally, I think it would be fair to say that, even if you breastfeed, most working moms cannot pump enough to keep up with baby's needs, and can expect to do at least some supplementation with formula (though I was lucky enough not to have this problem myself). So, even though we don't have to pay for daycare, I think it's still more expensive to have an at-home dad than an at-home mom.
  2. With your first baby, you'll get tons of presents! People bought us pretty much everything we needed. Clothes, car seat, high chair, toys, etc. However, now that we're on our third kid, the gift well has run dry, a lot of our stuff is worn out and/or expired and/or proven unsafe (bottles, possibly car seat), PLUS this baby is arriving a season off from her sister and can't wear any of the same clothes. Inconvenient, that.
  3. Almost half of what I've personally spent so far has been on my progesterone shots. Which almost no one else needs. On the other hand, I do not pay the premiums on our health insurance. I think most people have probably spent at least $400 on health insurance premiums in the 6 months I've been pregnant. So, still a bargain!
  4. Use cloth diapers. We did completely for our first, and actually really liked it. Why we don't anymore? Lots of reasons, mostly because our washing machine is a PIECE OF JUNK, even though we bought it BRAND NEW just a couple of years ago. GRRRR. (Hey, you know what would have made more sense than a new leather couch? Oh, a washing machine.)

Anyway, I just didn't want anyone to see that tally at the right and think they couldn't afford a baby. All babies really, really need is love, your arms, mom's milk, some swaddling clothes, and a car seat (if you have a car!). The rest is icing.

LeeAnn (oh my gosh, does she not have the most beautiful red hair?) said:

If you have diapers, clothes, blankets and the stuff you bought over the weekend, you're probably set, right?

Uh... ;) Pretty much. On my list still are:
  • New nursing bras (which I should have bought before my LAST baby, because mine are really shot now!),
  • A bottle warmer (yet another working-mom expense there),
  • Car seat (which we borrowed from my SIL who is also pregnant now, also it might be expired, we have to check),
  • Double stroller (how did our Graco Duo Glider get SO SO trashed in just 2 1/2 years? Lots of use, and lots of shoving it into the trunk of a Corolla? We're thinking about getting a Sit 'n' Stand Deluxe, if anyone has any experience.)
  • Evening primrose oil and red raspberry leaf supplements (I took these at the end of my pregnancy last time, as I'd read they help prepare your body for labor. Not sure if they did anything, but my labor was only 5 hours. Worth it? YES.)
  • Fish oil capsules. (I've heard that taking fish oil after the birth of a baby helps ward of post partum depression. Worth a try? YES. )

Are any of these items "needs"? Nah, probably not. But is this baby worth a little splurging? Yes she is. :)

Wow that got long! Sorry!

8 comments:

Lindsey J said...

Just a thought on the bottle warmer--our daycare leaves a crockpot full of water plugged in all day to warm bottles. Could your hubby keep one of those mini-crocks full? I mean, if you have one. We have one that sits in a cabinet and doesn't do anything. Another one of those wedding presents....

When my hubby has had to stay home with the baby (he gets more holidays than I do and the kids' daycare is on the same schedule), he keeps a pan of water on the stove for warming bottles. He doesn't leave it on though...

But of course, she is worthy of a brand-new bottle warmer too :)

Tenille said...

With our first, we just used a big plastic cup (like the Taco Bell kind? Gosh, I can't believe we ever used to go to Taco Bell, but whatever) and water hot from the tap. And that worked great. Somewhere along the way we got a bottle warmer, and kind of liked the convenience of it. Not sure if we'll even end up buying one of these, since the only one they had at Target was recalled. Gah.

LeeAnn said...

Sorry to tell you, no matter how expensive the nursing bras, they always wear out after one baby. You can try and use them longer but they get pretty stretched out and gross. And yes, I think at-home moms go through fewer nursing pads because...we don't have anyone staring at us weirdly if we have crusty dried milk and spit up on our clothing. I went through several years (OK, I'm still there although my nursing days are over) where I humorously called my clothing "spit-rags" because by the end of the day I looked like one. Changing shirts just makes more laundry. Working moms don't really have that option. ;)

Jamie said...

I learned that baby is indeed another girl... (can I give a little yay to that as the mother of four girls myself!) So I will be finishing up the burpies in girly colors and patterns to send you!!! :)

Love love love those Target coupons... I am going to find a bunch and stock up for my GF who is expecting baby #2 (also a girl) via c-section on Aug. 18th. She is now a single Mama and can use all the savings I can round up for her!

So glad that you are talking about nursing and working/pumping. All that jazz. I breastfed for 14-16 months with all the kiddos, but so many people think you if work that it can't be done!

Stacey said...

Thanks for the response!!! However it seems that most of you all breastfeed and prepare for this with all kinds of things. Pumps, pads etc. I never have and don't plan on it. I find the stability of formula more comforting for regularity of the milk for the baby. Of course I am always told that I should reconsider, but I have seen alot of problems mothers have had with breastfeeding. It is more convenient (formula) for my life and family and I won't be needing any of those items. I do remember the things I used with everychild and will pick these things up as I go. I think I am still in shock that we are adding to an already large group of children. I still don't know the gender and won't till next month. I really do appreciate the information though!!! Thanks a bunch!!!!

Stacey said...

After reading your comments...I am wondering, am I still the only mom who uses a microwave to warm up a bottle? Just Checking...

Tenille said...

Jamie - thank you thank you! You're too sweet!

Stacey - I've always read that warming a bottle in a microwave can cause hot spots that can burn baby. Though I don't know that I've personally ever warmed a bottle? That's SuperDad's area more than mine! :)

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